Positive ResolutionsJan 30, 2019
There are very few of us who do not, at the start of each new year, resolve to do, or not do, certain things differently during the coming year. Experience has taught me, that positive resolutions stand a better chance of lasting beyond the middle of January.
I always try to include some positive resolutions, just for me, in my year plan. For the last few years, I have kept a ‘reading list’. I have a notebook in which I log books that I’ve read. And I also note the author’s name and the date I finished reading that book. I try to increase the number of books read each year, although I’m still only up to 26 last year. The effect of this is that I feel I am achieving something worthwhile. And I’m doing something I really enjoy (and getting a rest at the same time, always a bonus).
According to an American Report, 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the end of the first month. It concludes that one of the reasons is because you feel so overwhelmed, daunted, by the task ahead. If you don’t know where to start, you can find yourself putting the resolution off. For instance, you make the laudable decision to get fitter in the coming year. If you don’t belong to a gym or haven’t engaged in exercise since you left school, it will be tough. Setting smaller, achievable, goals could be the way forward. Organising a complete plan of action could end up being counter-intuitive; looking at how far you have to go to achieve your goal, may cause you to quit because it’s just too much!
Why a Positive Resolution?
Positive resolutions are proven to be easier to achieve than negative resolutions. And how you view your goals can influence how successful you will be. A typical resolution at this time of the year is ‘to lose weight’. This has the effect of depriving you of what you enjoy, at what can be a grim time of the year anyway. You might well be more successful if you decide to ‘eat/live more healthily’. This offers exciting possibilities – more variation in your diet, move more, feel stronger and even enjoy a pampering session. By redefining negatives in a positive way, you may find you enjoy your activities that much more, giving yourself a better chance of being successful.
Think about applying this principle of turning negatives into positives to all areas of your life. You could find yourself worrying less, achieving more, and feeling more in control of your life. As a conveyancing lawyer, I sometimes hear people say they will wait until we have some certainty in politics. In or out of Europe – the question influences their decision whether to move house or not. Do you want to buy (or sell) and have the wherewithal to do so? My own view is that you take control of your own situation and get on with it. Life goes on, regardless of what politicians in this country and the wider Europe are doing (or not …).
We can talk ourselves into a negative outlook if we allow the ‘worst case scenarios’ we read and hear about in the news to dominate our thinking. Let us rather get on with our lives, make the most of what we have, adopt a positive mindset, and achieve our well-planned goals.